La hyperconnectivity, urbanization and globalization, with their changes, affect people's mental health. How to deal with mistakes and turn failure into a great learning experience.

social changes They occur so quickly that people often have difficulty incorporating and adapting to them. The external stimuli of the globalization, hyperconnectivity and urbanization They are constant and have an impact on individuals.

“We are body, emotion and language. This means that any of these three domains has an impact on the other,” explains Verónica Salatino, a graduate in Communication from the University of Buenos Aires (UBA) and professional Coach (with ICF endorsement), from an ontological perspective. It is key that each person can respond: "How do they impact “How do social behaviors impact my health?”

SURA Insurance experts identified 3 trends which illustrate how the postmodern pace of life has generated changes in people's personal and social development. This has given rise to three phenomena:

• New family structures and dynamics, where the Child-rearing is beginning to be delegated to third parties (educational system, extended family and employees). This change in roles and responsibilities weakens the family support network, in addition to the loss of values ​​and lack of skills to manage emotions.
• Hyperconnectivity linked to a greater exposure of life in the social media and with it a loss of the concept of privacy, as well as a dependence on technology, which causes a decrease in socialization skills.
• Globalization and society's greater access to technologies leads to a increased consumption and disproportionate experiences making visible the repetition of individuals' behaviors unconsciously (herd behavior).

These everyday and changing situations lead to experience some behaviors such as competitiveness. In constant comparison with others, the feeling of what is known as “failure” emerges.

What we talk about when we talk about failure

Maria Juliana Gaviria, physician and Director of the health capacity of the corporate office of Seguros SURA, explain what "Accepting that we have made a mistake is not easy; it means that we have done something wrong and we would certainly have preferred that it not happen. Therefore, it is best to consider the error as a readjustment.”

“All great masters hone their art (whatever it may be) by making mistakes and correcting them,” he adds. In this case, Salatino exemplifies with a famous saying: “Thomas Edison’s phrase is well known, which states that he did not fail when discovering the electric light bulb (or lamp) on his thousandth attempt, but that he discovered 999 ways in which not to make it.”

Gaviria acknowledges that “mistakes are frowned upon in societyWe have bought into the formula of 'value = results', and that's why we hate failure. The key to everything lies in how that error is interpreted. Some interpret error as failure And depending on what it means to them, they will gloss over it or blame others. Failure contains the seeds of success, said a wise voice. This happens when we allow the substantial part of failure to become a blessing, a hinge that opens that unnoticed door.

From this perspective, the expert from Seguros SURA mentions some positive aspects of making mistakes:

• Te you become smarter: Errors allow you to analyze the situation and learn from it, because success at first does not generate analysis.
• You develop a greater learning capacity.
• You develop your memory.
• They motivate you to keep learning.
• They incite new neural connections in the brain and make it more active and exercise your endurance capacity.

It all depends on the focus

Salatino maintains that “change the focus "It is what allows us to learn from everything, even from those attempts that did not turn out as we expected. We can always see the same situation as a failure or we can see it like Edison, as a learning experience."

"That learning is resilience,” explain to Make sure you live Uruguayan writer and Emotional and Creative Intelligence Coach, María Raquel Bonifacino, goes into detail: “If you think of life as a game, where you bet, make a plan and carry it out, you must be prepared to lose.”

In this game there are different options, Bonifacino explains: 

Way 1. The ropeIn life you always have to have a rope, but it can be used to tie us up and prevent us from moving or to save our lives by pulling us out of a hole. It is up to us to change the situation.

Way 2. Read books about different experiences. We must give our mind different information through readings or videos about the affairs What concerns us most is not to lock ourselves in a monothematic state, but rather to open ourselves to new knowledge and leave our erroneous zones. Changing information makes us see supposed problems differently. Changing the channel of our mind changes our lives.

Way 3. There is no blame. Although many religions and societies have blamed us since birth, we must take the blame off our shoulders, because if we do not harm anyone or anything and respect others, everything that happens is not our fault. And if it were, we should take it as a lesson for the future. Reality, perfection alone does not exist.. What exists is lifelong learning.

Way 4. The creativity. Developing Creative Intelligence is extremely important for us to be resilient. By being creative, we will have a free mind to find different solutions to the same problem.

Way 5. Without luggage. The less luggage, the easier the journey through life. The same thing happens with preconceptions. An agile mind has no preconceptions, it has plans, ideas, neurons ready to learn and understand, and it is also attentive to new opportunities and ideas that arise in unexpected ways.

“The most important thing on this trip through Life is about carrying hope. The certainty that we can materialize what we desire, the ability to adapt to learning and to transform ourselves in the process of creating our desired being. Nobody says that living is easy, living is the greatest and most wonderful game and challenge that is presented to us from our first breath,” concludes Bonifacino.

One of the purposes of SURA Insurance is to help policyholders become relevant, live healthy and full lives. To do this, the ability to live with mistakes and deal with emotions is essential in an increasingly accelerated and challenging pace of life.